Nesting

Nesting during healing/therapeutic separation or divorce is one option of a potential living situation to consider. Quite often, I notice in my work with some couples that one parent is expected to leave the home during healing separation or divorce and the other parent feels like they should be able to stay in the family…

Your Role in How Your Relationship Got to This Point

A key goal in Discernment Counseling is that both people, no matter the outcome for their relationship, fill in the gaps to what happened to their relationship and each of their roles.

Discernment Counseling Video Interview

"I am a Certified Discernment Counselor, one of the few in our local area at the time of this writing"

Criticism and Judgement

Something that I try to be aware of in myself is when I am being critical or judging. I try to notice what’s happening in my body. I’m always trying to pull my attention away from what I’m being critical about to my underlying feelings, which are usually some sort of sadness, fear, sense of outrage, etc.

Walk/Talk Therapy is Here!

(It is not a requirement to do walk & talk sessions in my practice).

Couples Therapy for First Responders

Thank you so much for reading my blog! Over the years, I have been getting more clients where at least one member of the couples is a first responder, either currently or retired ( firefighter, EMT, police officer, state trooper). In some cases, I have worked with couples where all partners have been first responders. I…

Healing Separation

I work with partners where there is sometimes at least one who is not sure they want to remain together but are not ready to end their relationship. Most people have never heard of the term, "healing separation" and that there is an actual plan for partners who are going through the pain of questioning…

My Approach

I utilize results-driven, research-based models such as: Emotionally Focused Therapy, Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Trauma Informed Therapy, AASECT Sex Therapy, Leadership and Empowerment Models, Solution-Focused Coaching, Gottman Couples Therapy, Discernment Counseling, Co-Parenting Coaching, etc. I believe the most important aspect of therapy is meeting clients where they are presently, this is also known as the Person-Centered Approach, developed…

Foreplay: Erogenous Zones

When I talk with clients about how they connect with their partner, or former partners during intimate times, sometimes they have to ask me what I'm talking about. I write this blog so that my clients can get the education they are looking for on topics they are interested in. Enjoy reading and re-learning about…

The Elusive Orgasm

As a sex therapist, I help clients learn more and talk about their intimate experiences, so that they can have the kind of connection they need with a partner(s).  Clients are usually surprised to learn that an orgasm each time isn't necessary to have a good sexual experience, either with yourself and/or with a partner.…