The Elusive Orgasm

As a sex therapist, I help clients learn more and talk about their intimate experiences, so that they can have the kind of connection they need with a partner(s).  Clients are usually surprised to learn that an orgasm each time isn’t necessary to have a good sexual experience, either with yourself and/or with a partner. Sometimes people orgasm, and sometimes they don’t, it’s all ok.

Too many people are “orgasm centric”, to the point that they have become unable to orgasm due to this over focus. We discuss that there is an unfolding of intimacy between them and their partner (or themselves) and to stay in the moment, and relax and enjoy the sensations they are feeling when they are with their partner(s). Without pressure to have an orgasm, couples (partners)  and individual therapy clients, tell me they are relieved to enjoy the experience with less pressure. It is time to take the pressure out of your sexual experiences and replace it with mindfulness and pleasure.

 

In essence, I help people to re-learn in a more positive and accepting way what an orgasm is, talk about what their experiences are, and what to do if you don’t experience the kind of intimacy that you need or want. The quality of time you spend in pleasurable acts is the most important part, and in most cases, the orgasm will come, no pun intended.

I work with couples and individuals in my psychotherapy and coaching practice.

Find Your Strengths at http://www.kelleyhopkinsalvarez.com.  My clients make progress!  Let’s continue the “conversation”, text me at 203-948-0938 or email me @ kelleytherapy@icloud.com.

Thank You,
Kelley Hopkins-Alvarez,LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
NCC, BCC, MS, MSEd