We all have valid reasons for not spending money on ourselves and many clients have real barriers in doing so. This post is not to ignore those real barriers, just explore if there is any way to get movement in those barriers, so that you can get what you need to feel better.

Some clients who are in therapy can sometimes have increased anxiety about using some of their financial resources on themselves during the holidays.  Keep in mind that many people begin to experience stress when they feel that not enough has or is being done for them.  I remind clients to ask questions such as, “what do I need to do for myself right now” or,  “is it the right choice for me to suspend or halt counseling based on finances, when I’m still experiencing a high level of  distress”.  Too often people put themselves last when allocating financial resources, you need to ask yourself the question, ” am I putting myself last”.

Financial pressures are very real in this current economy, and as always, it is advisable to look with a critical eye where your funds are going. However, don’t  lose sight of how valuable feeling better can be. Really effective therapy can assist you in reducing your stress, to increase intimacy in your relationship, and to feel more confident in all areas of your life, including your finances. Is there a way to put a price on these changes? My clients often tell me after some sessions that they begin to see positive change flow into all areas of their life. This is the best present one can give;  a gift that keeps on giving!

Kelley Hopkins-Alvarez, NCC, MS, MSEd

Licensed Professional Counselor


 Couples Therapy, Sex Therapy, Individual Therapy, Divorce Coaching



  Address: 100B Danbury Road, Suite #201D, Ridgefield, CT 06877

(behind Union Savings Bank, 10 minutes from Danbury Mall)